Otherness is a bliss : Take Full Responsibility of Your Life!
Most people are too afraid to commit to anything because they already know they’re going to break their commitment. This internal fear is the primary challenge, yet compounded by another, more external, challenge. Namely, that the systems of society are set up to work against you.
If you don’t make a definite decision about what you’re going to do, despite the opposition you’ll face along the way, you’re screwed! It won’t happen for you. You’ll be left lethargic, unconscious, and indefinite. You’ll be swayed by external conditions which are inherently meant to slow you down.
However, when you make a decision, things will start to shift. Regardless of the absurdities around you, you’ll get momentum. Stuff will start happening.But only when you’re serious and resolute, come hell or high water.
Four realities exist:
- Indecision is potentially your greatest threat.
- Most people are “drifting,” which means they haven’t taken command of their mind or their life. Drifting is when you let external circumstances determine where you go in life.
- Just before any substantial breakthroughs, you will experience darkness and defeat.
- When you take control of your mind, you realize the quality of your thinking reflects your current potential.
Many others have been gripped by their “other self.” Tony Robbins explains this notion as a 3-part process:
- Make a decision while in a peak state
- Committing to that decision
- Resolve within yourself that what you have decided is finished. It will happen.
If you don’t make your decisions in a peak state, your decisions will be weak and small minded. When you make your decisions while in a clear and edified mental place, you’ll put yourself on a more elevated trajectory.
Making a commitment means you’re seeing it through to the end. It means you’re leaving yourself no escape routes. You’re burning any bridges that might lead to lesser paths of distraction. Your decision has been made. There’s no going back. You’ve passed your point of no return.
Where decisions are made in a single moment, commitment is seeing those decisions into the future. Especially when life gets difficult.
“Resolve means it’s done,” said Robbins. “It’s done inside your heart, therefore it’s done in the real world.” When you are resolved, there is no question whatsoever. To quote his Air-ness, Sir Michael Jordan, “Once I made a decision, I never thought about it again.”
Very few people make this level of decision.
Most people have an incredibly weak relationship with commitment .People break commitments to themselves all the time. They perpetually lie to themselves.
When you can’t trust yourself to do what you tell yourself you’re going to do, you’re not going to make any real decisions. Rather, you’ll dwell in a state of indecision, which is a weak and powerless state.
Many people will read this article and think I’m being eccentric. Or, they’ll quickly dismiss my words. This article wasn’t written for those people.
However, if you are feeling something inside of you wanting to be more in your life, I have a personal challenge for you.
Make a decision today. Something you’ve wanted to do or have been planning to do for a long time.
Commit to doing that thing.
Resolve within yourself that you already have it in you. If you didn’t, it wouldn’t have been gnawing at you all this time.
Research has found that when people commit to something, their desire to be seen as “consistent”.
This perceptual shift is your cognition, values, and attitudes aligning with your new behavior. Hence, your desire to be viewed as consistent — firstly to others and then eventually to yourself — shifts how you see yourself.
Fake it until you make it?
No.
Make the decision you want to. Eventually, you grow into that decision through your commitment and personal resolve. Your goals are something you grow into.
This isn’t faking anything.
It’s living with intention.
It’s living with definiteness of purpose.
So what’s the challenge?
Publicly commit to something to TODAY. Don’t be rash or impulsive about this. Think about it for a moment. Make a plan! That plan doesn’t need to be elaborate. In the least, consider the goal you have and a few sub-goals that would be required to achieving your larger goal.
“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”
